WRITTEN BY Lauren Reid
Breakups are almost always a sticky situation. No matter the reasoning behind it, cutting ties with someone you may have loved is going to hurt and of course, no one wants to be the person who gets labeled the bad guy in the situation.
Here are a few tips on how to maturely handle the end of a relationship.
1. Be honest. The best thing you can do for someone is to tell them the truth. When being broken up with, one can spend a lot of time wondering why. Laying it all out there to begin with grants closure for both parties upfront. Having closure makes it easier to start to heal.
2. Don’t string them along. If you’re even considering breaking up, the odds are that you want to. In order to be transparent and honest, it’s best to speak up on the matter sooner rather than later. It may be a difficult conversation, but it’ll save your soon-to-be ex from a lot of overthinking afterwards.
3. Be careful with your words. What you say after a break up is just as important as during it. Making sure you’re on good terms could potentially keep you from drama later on.
4. “Out of sight, out of mind for a while.” This one’s a tip from one of our followers, Paige Connor (@pg_connor). Sometimes it’s best to distance yourself online as well as in real life. Stalking their social media to see what they’re up to, who they’re with, etc. could possibly rub salt into your fresh wound.
5. Respect their space. If your partner breaks up with you, try your best to respect the decision, even if you don’t agree with it. It’s okay to be sad and feel those difficult emotions for a while, but don’t blow their phone up in hopes it’ll change their mind.
6. “…Save yourself the trouble and stop worrying about them,” Sarah Kennedy (@sarahgrace_1222) advises. If they clearly aren’t worried about you, there is no reason to spend all your time worrying about them.
7. Stay busy. Picking up a hobby is the perfect way to keep yourself from thinking about them too much. Try learning something new, or practicing a skill you already know. Not only does this keep your mind occupied, it helps to improve yourself as you move on too.
8. Let yourself feel. It’s okay to feel everything and be sad. It’s more than okay, actually. But don’t let those feelings or sadness take over your life. At the same time, don’t ignore those feelings. Journaling could be a great way to navigate your emotions and keep things balanced.
9. Plan one thing a week to look forward to. The thought of getting to do something you’re excited about can be that one thing that gets you through the week. It could be as small as grocery shopping.
10. “Break ups suck, but they’re a great time to focus on just yourself.” These wise words from Eilish Bennett (@eilishb123) are true. At the end of the day, no matter if you’re in a relationship or single, you will always have yourself. Make sure that’s a person you’re in love with, because you’re stuck with yourself forever.
Most of these tips are a lot easier said than done. Whether you’re the one breaking up, or the one being broken up with, it’s a hard situation. But, we all go through it. One thing to keep in mind is that if you’re capable of loving the wrong person that much, imagine when it’s the right one.